JUL 27, 25..IN A WAY.. WE HAVE NO NEW IDEAS..

 IN A WAY.. WE IN A.A. HAVE NO NEW, ORIGINAL, PRINCIPLES..

If you take a long, hard look at our principles, Trust God, Clean House, Trust Others as well as our 12 Steps and our 12 Traditions, almost all major religions as well as other spiritual seekers in many other fields of thought, have come to use the same basic spiritual principles we use.

This really leapt out at me when NATIONAL TODAY featured the below Holiday back on July the 19th.

 Across the United States, the third Saturday in July recognizes Toss Away the "Could Haves" and "Should Haves" Day. 

In short, don't go through life with regrets.

How about these concepts.

Let go of the past and live for the present. 

The first step to participating in this day is to find a pen and paper. 

Then write down your "could haves" and "should haves" on the paper. 

Finally, throw away the list. 

Once you have thrown your "could haves" and "should haves" in the trash, make the following resolution:

"From this day forward, I choose not to live in the past. The past is history that I can not change. I can do something about the present; I choose to live in the present."

Don’t dwell on the things you cannot control. We call this Acceptance and we say the Serenity Prayer!

Focus on the things that matter. You must prioritize the present and be optimistic about the future. Spend less time asking yourself questions like “why did I do that?”. Altering the past is firmly out of our control, so we must focus on the here and now. Wasting time on regrets will accomplish nothing. The idea is to live life to the fullest to have no regrets when it ends. 

To see the full NATIONAL TODAY writing just click onto the below link.

https://nationaltoday.com/toss-away-the-could-haves-and-should-haves-day/

Now here is where we do differ. It is my experience that we in A.A. work far harder and with much more diligence to practice our principles than do those in other religious and spiritual fields.

Good stuff!

DEC 31, 24 .. NEW YEAR'S EVE 2024..

 New Year's Eve 2024. 

Where did 2024 disappear to?

We just finished Christmas.

For some reason, that takes me immediately back to Charles Dickens' and to his Ebenezer Scrooge and to Ghosts of Christmas Past.

I wonder how many of us could write about our own Ghosts of New Year's Eves?

And of our own fireworks.

In his way, Ebenezer Scrooge solved his troubled past with some spiritual tools embodied in our 12 Steps.

Step 4 Inventory. Step 5 Confession. Step 9 Amends. Step 11 Prayer. Step 12 Helping others.

On New Year's Eve 2024, Patti and I wish each and every one of you a very happy, safe, and sober day.

APR 28, 18 .. STEP FOUR

In Posts dated January 30, 18, February 28, 18, and March 30, 18, I discussed my ideas about each of the first three steps of Alcohoholics Anonymous.

On page 58 of the Big Book, prior to the steps that appear on pages 59 and 60 are the following words ..

If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go  to any length to get it - then you are ready to take certain steps.

One has to want this program. Further one has to be willing to go to any length to get it. 


So, IF you want this program, and are willing to go to any length to get it, THEN you are ready to take the suggested twelve steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Step 1 : We must acknowledge / admit we have a problem. If we don't do this, how are we going to solve a problem?

Step 2 : We acknowledge that we need outside help from a greater power. We acknowledge that we have not solved our own problems with alcohol and need help.

Step 3 : We make a decision to get this outside help.

The time has come to take action. In AA, this means taking a moral inventory.

Step 4 : Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Bill Wilson, our co-founder, began to write the book, Alcoholics Anonymous, in March of 1938.

The book was completed in April of 1939. Basically the book sat idle in the publisher's warehouse for a few years into the early 1940s. 

The point is this : From May of 1939 until the early 1940's, the steps were not-in-daily-use by the members. Yet the early members of the fellowship were getting, and staying, sober. Without them we  would not have AA as we have it today. So don't beat-yourself-up over step 4. 

A friend in Detroit, a true long-timer, used to carry matchbooks in his pocket.  When a newcomer would appear in a meeting, after the meeting, he he would sit down with them. Discuss steps 1 - 3. Then he would take out a matchbook, rip out the matches, hand the empty matchbook to the newcomer, and tell him to write down the things he was going to take to his grave on the matchbook cover! Sit and wait with the newcomer, and when finished, do a Step 5. 

My first sponsor had a sponsor. My Grand Sponsor was sober in 1938 before the AA Big Book appeared. On Step 4 I was given one hour, with an 8-1/2 - 11 lined pad, and told to write down the things that I was going to take-to-my-grave.

In my humble opinion, we are making far-too-much out of  Step 4.

In Step 10, we will continue to take inventory and admit our wrongs. So what we may miss in Step 4, we have ample opportunity to catch in Step 10.

Here is my final thought on Step 4.

Before you begin to write your Step 4, and as you are actually writing it, DO NOT decide whom you will share it with in Step 5. IF you decide to whom you will share it, you may begin to think to yourself, "I don't want him / her to hear this." and you may begin to tailor your Step 4 to who will hear it and leave out things you don't want them to hear.

I repeat : Step 5 simply says for us to share our 4th Step with another human being. Step 5 does not say to share Step 4 with one's sponsor. Certainly you may share it with a sponsor, but it is not mandated that you do so.

Radical? Not to me. I lived this process.